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How do you be a man?
By Dave | September 13, 2009
Cordova asked:
In a previous question I revealed my affinity for gourmet food and classical music. This revelation was met with answers that in so many words accused me of being overly feminine. So now I must ask. How does a “man” behave? It seems that people rely to heavily on outward appearances. So many of these so-called men are at best inept when it comes to procuring a confident female. Meanwhile I date women who if not for their dedication to intellectual pursuits would fit quite handsomely in Hollywood. It also seems most of the “men” would rather retreat than face a threat. It is my opinion that the modern male is mostly flash and no substance. Admittedly I am perturbed by the fact that many women have bought into the outwardly masculine, internally feminized man. They may advertise their so-called masculinity but their true identity is in question. I on the other hand do not were my ***** on my sleeve, I much prefer Prada. So for someone like me, tell me how to go about suppressing my manners and intellect so I can attract you, the brainwashed woman?
In every conflict I have ever encountered 99% of the “men” back down, the other 1% got beat the hell up. Why are “men” such punks?
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In a previous question I revealed my affinity for gourmet food and classical music. This revelation was met with answers that in so many words accused me of being overly feminine. So now I must ask. How does a “man” behave? It seems that people rely to heavily on outward appearances. So many of these so-called men are at best inept when it comes to procuring a confident female. Meanwhile I date women who if not for their dedication to intellectual pursuits would fit quite handsomely in Hollywood. It also seems most of the “men” would rather retreat than face a threat. It is my opinion that the modern male is mostly flash and no substance. Admittedly I am perturbed by the fact that many women have bought into the outwardly masculine, internally feminized man. They may advertise their so-called masculinity but their true identity is in question. I on the other hand do not were my ***** on my sleeve, I much prefer Prada. So for someone like me, tell me how to go about suppressing my manners and intellect so I can attract you, the brainwashed woman?
In every conflict I have ever encountered 99% of the “men” back down, the other 1% got beat the hell up. Why are “men” such punks?
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Topics: Gourmet Food | 24 Comments »
September 15th, 2009 at 10:40 am
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Nah, it’s cool to have different tastes instead of just football and beer. Rock on, my cultured friend!
September 16th, 2009 at 8:03 pm
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Who cares.. Your question is too long and boring !
2 points !!!
September 17th, 2009 at 1:32 am
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go play paintball.
September 20th, 2009 at 4:35 am
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I agree with Pratik.
I do say a real man is someone who treats women (hell, ALL humans and animals) with respect and treats people equally regardless of gender.
September 23rd, 2009 at 7:51 am
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hey my firend its so easy to be a really man if you have $$$$$$$$$ that is a man in this world no one as you .
September 24th, 2009 at 12:34 am
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AHHHH? WHAT?
September 27th, 2009 at 9:47 am
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I don’t care if you *** or not dont tell me!!! U a freak!!!
September 29th, 2009 at 1:58 am
Create a video blog…instantly.
its style baby,STYLE!!.. to be a man the first major requirement is circumcision(do that and your ready to be a a man)
October 1st, 2009 at 1:36 pm
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So you’re a metrosexual. Big deal. Live life the way you want to. THAT’S what a man does.
(And women too– it’s called being human.)
October 4th, 2009 at 8:04 am
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first of all if you want a real woman not a brainwashed woman be yourself you shouldnt have to hide who you are and what you like, if you do hide you then your going to get a selfcentered snob anyways which would never last, if you want a smart woman who is also real you need to be yourself also just be real
October 4th, 2009 at 7:51 pm
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I say be yourself…its sounds as if you are interesting and intelligent enough to attract the type of woman you are looking for (not the brainwashed one)! Good luck!
October 5th, 2009 at 1:04 am
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I agree with you and think this is well said (as another non-phony man). You’re better off not acting like the fonz or getting tattoo arm bands.
I will say this, though. Become the best you can be at the most effective martial art you can find, and then you can show everyone what it means to be a real man with class, honor and dignity.
October 7th, 2009 at 12:12 am
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You know what? you seem like a really smart man and please just be yourself, we don’t need anymore of those conceited “hollywood”, “oh look at me I am so perfect” types! just be yourself and if women don’t like that, then just let them have the losers. Being yourself will attract “real women” and that is what you want
October 8th, 2009 at 8:55 am
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You don’t fool anyone with your self proclaimed intellect. Try growing a pair, put away the chardeney, eat more red meat. and quit walking around with limp wrists extended above your elbow…….although this may indeed be too late for you.
October 10th, 2009 at 10:27 am
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wow…i didnt hardely understand any of that lol.but it sounds great….u seem realy realy smart… or just have a big vocabulary but anywayz….
October 12th, 2009 at 6:25 am
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You are classy and intelligent, unlike the egotistic ****** called ‘real’ men!Dont ever worry about that. You are the modern man and like you said the women you date are hollywood material.So what are you worried about?
October 15th, 2009 at 1:25 am
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As long as your not gay,looking to be gay,your not.Live your life as you see fit.You don’t have to be a jock or into cars or trucks,watch football,drink beer and **** then scratch yourself to be a man.Sounds like you like or enjoy the finer things in life so do that.The world has a name that describes you it’s called metro-sexual.Look it up.
October 16th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
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“would fit quite handsomely in Hollywood.” – boring.
Apparently you’re so affected by what other people think of you and your behavior that I would say you’re having a maturity/insecurity issue. Who cares what others think. You said you’re meeting good women what does it matter? So you’re metrosexual which is the new “in thing” these days. Why let it perturb you that there are some women who still like neandrethals?
Some guys wear kilts these days. It seems to be the ongoing fad..yet theyre still masculine in their own ways.
Who cares..its what makes you happy.
October 17th, 2009 at 1:49 pm
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I hope that by asking how to go about suppressing your manners was only sarcasm. My man loves to cook and prepare gourmet food and classical music. He loves to have deep conversations about situations that matter. He enjoys the fine things in life.
On the other hand, he has a great “boy” relationship with my son as well. They can have lenghty conversations about burping, farting, snot and other disgusting things.
I love both sides of him and you will find the woman for you who is not brainwashed. She will see in you what I see in him and you will be happy. Don’t change who you are or how you act to land a woman.
October 18th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
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William C don’t worry about it….my significant other is a chef. We probably wouldn’t be together today if not for that. He knows foods that I can’t even pronounce, and even better he cooks many different things for me. He rarely does “typical guy” things, but he is a good man, he just has other interests. He probably can but doesn’t normally change a tire and will call me for the AAA number
However, he shares my love of reading and is probably the best read man I’ve ever lived with, and can tell me all kinds of new things from what he reads.
Don’t worry somewhere out there a woman is waiting for a man like you. BTW we have been together now for over 10 years.
October 20th, 2009 at 6:54 am
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Wow, that was pretty good…
While I also like good food, and can tolerate an excellent piece of music once in a while I tend to “dumb” myself when I come across a “nice piece of a*s*s” that happens to be a few rungs down the Evolutionary Ladder. I tend to study them first, learn a little about what they deem “masculine”, and will use it to my advantage. Doesn’t mean I don’t care about the women, it just gives me time to teach those poor souls that I can be whatever they want me to be. I can be Einstein to their Earl Hickey…
October 20th, 2009 at 9:28 pm
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I think a man who likes gourmet food and classical music is highly dateable! I’m really not giving you a bogus “touchy feely” answer, but the highest mark of a man is his confidence. That’s also the sexiest thing a man can put on each day!! If you know what you like and are confident in who you are, that’s one mark of being a man. But not all! The rest of it comes from personal responsibility and conducting yourself with integrity. Being a man comes from who you are, not what you do or what you like. Having the right priorities in life and keeping them in balance is a mark of manhood. Little boys are selfish and whine when they don’t get what they want. Little boys follow the crowd because they lack the confidence to blaze a trail. And your own trail with food and music is one blazed by many men before you. I don’t want a man who I have to be a mommy to. I want a man, not a woman! I so agree with you that women have brainwashed and feminized men. There are some excellent books on the subject. Dabney and Eldridge in particular are my favorites. Eldridge claims that the modern feminization of men has killed their souls, forced them to repress their innate need for adventure, and taught them to be our girlfriends. He further purports that the best men believe they can do now is to be good boys and go through life bored in a glass box. He does not support machismo, and neither do I. But I think you are best sticking with us beautiful intellectual types. We deserve you, and you are the type of man who deserves us. Together, we can go far. Let the bored and brainwashed breed and divorce and be miserable. You be you. It sounds like you’re doing a great job.
October 23rd, 2009 at 6:28 pm
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I don’t care or worry about fitting into someone else’s sterotype of what a man should be or how he should act. I am what I am and very comfortable in my own skin – its a benefit of having been on the planet awhile. I have a wide variety of tastes in music, art, dance, food, movies etc. and fortunately have shared those things with a beautiful intelligent woman for the last 25 years. I also enjoy the shooting sports, hunting (wild pigs with dogs and a spear is a favorite), baseball – lots of others. I also have not hesitated to get into fist fights when the occasion called for it.
The sexiest part of a woman is her brain…..give up on the ones whose brains have been laundered. I don’tknow how old you are, but I’d begin dating women instead of girls….. Good Luck
October 25th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
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hers a simple test to see if you’re a man;
Do you like the smell of gasoline
1 Yes / youre a man
2 No / you’re substandard defective human species with a penis
Grow a ***** you punk *** m.f.er, you fairy,
P.S. you sound pretty androgynous to me